The questions concerning who should pay for dinner on the first date are a fascinating aspect of the social world. Are men supposed to pay? Should women expect men to pay?
The No Chaser podcast consists of Timothy Chatarangsu, Nikki Blades, and Ricky Shucks. The podcast itself is set up in a room where all 3 friends converse about various subjects every week. Their podcast’s main success is derived from Tim’s YouTube channel, which has over four million subscribers, but it can also be found on Apple Podcast and Spotify. There is no “leader” of the podcast as all 3 members are given the freedom to speak as they wish. However, when they bring in a guest celebrity, they ask interview-type questions, but they remain loyal to their product: to have a down-to-earth and genuine conversation.
In their 85th podcast episode, they debate the possible meanings behind who pays for dinner on the first date. Nikki believes if a man doesn’t pick up the bill, that’s a sign of his disengagement from the possibility of establishing a romantic relationship with the woman. Rick then questions what her belief is attributed to, “is it personal preference or is it the way of the world?” Consequently, Nikki admits it’s a combination of both because society has normalized men paying. Throughout most of the conversation, Tim shied away from the controversial topics, although he does feel either party should not expect the other to pay. Overall, it was agreed upon that the woman should be ready to pay as she should never rely on another person to pay for her food.
Hi Wei! This is such an interesting podcast and I like the topic of it. Thank you for bringing up this topic which reminds me that, small things like paying bills for dinner also reflect gender perceptions. I agree with what Tim said that either male or female should expect the other to pay. As a female, I always pull out my credit card and ready to pay, but those gentlemen would pay for the dinner themselves and say I can pay for the movie instead.